When you think of someone “loving themselves”, do you cringe inside, or think “Gimme a break?” There are lots of people who have an unhealthy amount of self – love, and can be quite hurtful to others, sometimes to the point of abuse. That’s not what I’m talking about here.
No, what I’m talking about is what both quotes above allude to. If you can’t stand being alone with your thoughts, chances are that others will not want to be around you either. When you’re ok with being alone, you won’t end up running for the first potential mate that shows up; you can really sit back and think…is this person really the best? (This is the place I’m at in my journey right now.)
Have you ever gone alone to a movie, or out to eat? If you can, I encourage you to try it. Go see the movie that you’ve secretly been wanting to see, but no one else wants to go. Take yourself out to dinner at the nicest restaurant you can afford. Instead of watching a favored team in your living room, go to a local bar to watch them in community. (That’s what I did for last year’s Super Bowl.) If you feel like it, strike up a conversation with someone there. If not, thats cool too.
Next time, I’ll be giving you ideas of different activities to engage in where you can make new friends, and tell you some of my experiences. (I may even post a pic from something I did back in August.)
I think that many people…myself included…can get so wrapped up in whatever our focus is on that we forget the really basic stuff. What life is really all about, and what matters most. As Cinderella said in the movie released last year, “Have courage, and be kind.”
Have the courage to stand up for yourself and not be taken advantage of, abused, or deceived. Know that you ARE special, and important; worthy of respect. Be kind, gentle and trusting in the basic goodness of humanity at the same time.
When you’re coming out of an abusive situation, that can seem really daunting. Knowing where to be kind and when to put your foot down (albeit gently) is a challenge.
Never stop trying to improve yourself and your situation, yet be content with what you have. (Keeping up with the neighbors is sooo overrated.) That seems paradoxical, but really it’s not.
The car I used to have when I was with my girls’ dad had a remote car starter in it. On cold winter mornings, it. was. awesome. I’d go to the window by the driveway about 10 minutes before it was time to leave, and when we went out, the windshield was clear of ice, the car was never frozen shut, and it was nice and warm inside. The car I’m driving now doesn’t have one though. Do I want to get one before this winter sets in? You bet! Am I going to go into debt though, just so I can have the convenience? Hardly. I managed last winter without it too.