Did You Get Your 12 A Day Today?

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I don’t know about you, but in today’s society how often do people really hug?  It takes a 20 second hug for the chemical oxytocin to be released by your brain.  Oxytocin is the body’s natural antidepressant and anti anxiety hormone.

There are people at my church who wear buttons advertising “free hugs.”  Every week I make sure I get mine.  I can honestly say it makes a difference in how the rest of my day goes; I’m better able to focus, and handle stresses and setbacks better.

The opposite is true on days I don’t see anyone else.  I’m easily distracted, more scattered, and more on edge.  (Today happens to be one of those days.)

On days I have my girls I seem to have the opposite problem.  Miss M is often clingy, and I have a hard time getting things done.  I try not to discourage it too much though, as I know it may well be just a matter of time and she won’t want to hug me at all.  Most of the time Miss J is that way now, so I treasure every hug freely given by her.

What about you?  Do you have certain people that you like to give or get hugs to and from?  Do you notice a difference when you get a lot of hugs vs. when you don’t?

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Work-Life Balance Doesn’t Exist??

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There’s no such thing as a work-life balance.

Trying to “have it all” is a recipe for increased stress, potential health problems, and an unhappy life.  The best thing to do is to figure out what the three most important things in life to you are.  For me, those three are family, service to others, and wealth generation.  Figure out what you need to do for each of those 3 things, and focus on that.

When you do that, other things either fall away and become unimportant or fall into place.

Another thing that helps is merging work, home, and social calendars all into one.  Same for “To Do” lists.  They’re all part of life.  That way it will be easier to see and prioritize what needs to be done.  If you have a partner, share the list with them and see if there’s something they can help with.  If you have people working for you, delegate what you can to them.  That also means that some things may not get done EXACTLY like you would do them, but if its not one of your top 3 priorities, does it really matter??

When do you work best?  Some people are most productive early in the morning, while others work better after their kiddos go to bed.  Some people call that your “flow.”  Whatever works best for you, figure out when that is and how you can prioritize working then, and do it.

That also means giving yourself permission to NOT work when you’re not able to focus, even if it means something needs to be put off.  That doesn’t mean being lazy is ok, but if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to be there for anyone else.  Realistically though, if you’re having a hard time trying to figure out what you’re looking at means, how well are you going to be able to make decisions, or figure out how to say what you want to say?  So cut yourself some slack, and don’t force yourself to keep working if you just can’t focus and your head feels like it’s filled with cotton.

So to sum up, choose 3 min areas in life to focus your energy on, make one “to do” list, delegate, and work when you can do it best.  Try it and let me know your thoughts!